As we step into the holiday season, I want to take a moment to recognize that for many of us, this time of year isn’t just about lights, laughter, and festivities. It can also stir up deep feelings of loneliness, particularly if you’ve experienced loss. Whether it’s the passing of a cherished loved one or shifts in family traditions, know that you’re not alone, and it’s completely okay to feel what you’re feeling.
Below I've listed some ways to navigate the complex emotions of grief during the holiday season, and how to find space for healing amidst the festivities:
Embrace Your Emotions
First, let’s talk about those emotions. It’s totally normal to experience a whirlwind of feelings—sadness, anger, even confusion. Unfortunately, grief doesn’t magically fade away just because it’s the holidays. So, give yourself permission to feel those emotions.
Acknowledging what you’re going through is a crucial step toward healing.
Create New Traditions
I know it can feel like the holiday spirit is dimmed when someone we love is no longer with us. But what if you could flip the script? Starting new traditions can be a beautiful way to honor those we've lost while also allowing ourselves to find joy again. Whether it’s cooking their favorite meal, lighting a candle in their memory, or volunteering for a cause that resonates with you, new traditions can coexist with the old ones and help bring a spark back into your celebrations.
Set Boundaries and Prioritize Your Needs
The holiday season often comes with expectations—whether it’s attending parties, hosting family gatherings, or participating in the usual traditions. However, when you’re grieving, these obligations can feel overwhelming or even impossible. It’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize your own needs over social norms or obligations.
You may choose to decline invitations to gatherings, take a break from holiday shopping, or limit your participation in events that may trigger painful memories.
Give yourself permission to say “no” when you need to, and be gentle with yourself about what you can and cannot handle.
Connect with Others
Loneliness can feel like a heavy weight, but remember, you don’t have to carry it alone. Reach out to your friends, family, or even support groups. Share your feelings and experiences—trust me, there are so many women who can relate. A simple coffee date with a friend or a heartfelt phone call can work wonders and remind you that you're not alone on this journey.
Prioritize Self-Care
Amid the holiday hustle and bustle, don’t forget to put yourself first. Self-care is essential, especially during this time. Take moments for yourself—whether it’s curling up with a good book, taking a walk, or engaging in some creative expression/activities.
It’s perfectly okay to step back and focus on your own needs. You deserve it!
Try to Stay Present
While it’s easy to get lost in memories of the past, try to keep your focus on the present moment. Engage in activities that ground you—like spending time in nature, journaling, or indulging in a favorite hobby. Practicing mindfulness can help you discover those little bursts of joy, even when things seem heavy.
Seek Professional Support
If feelings of loneliness and grief become overwhelming, consider reaching out to a mental health professional. Therapy can provide a nurturing space to explore your emotions and develop coping strategies that fit you. You don’t have to navigate this journey by yourself.
Remember: it’s okay to grieve and equally okay to seek moments of happiness.
By embracing your feelings, creating new traditions, connecting with others, prioritizing self-care, staying present, and seeking help when needed, you can navigate this season with strength and resilience.
Please know, you are not alone, and brighter days are ahead.
About the Author:
Laura Lange is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Therapist, LCSW, CADC, CODP I, EMDR Trained, and co-owner of Restorative Behavioral Health.
Navigating the world of therapy can be overwhelming, but Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Laura Lange is here to make it easier. As a therapist, Laura blends professionalism with compassion to create a safe and supportive space for her clients.
She works with adolescents and adults on issues like anxiety, trauma, OCD, depression, and more, including couples seeking premarital counseling.
Trained in EMDR, Laura collaborates with medical providers and families to ensure comprehensive care.
Learn more about Laura and her practice, Restorative Behavioral Health at restorativebh.com
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